Dear Birthmother,

When they are young, most people do not think about the family they will eventually have. Some want large families, and some want very small families. There is no way to predict which way life will take you. No one thinks about how that family will come about. It is just something that happens. Life choices are what define us as people.

No one wakes up one day and thinks adoption is an easy or normal part of those life choices. The fact that you are considering this decision proves how strong and selfless someone can really be. There is no way to understand the conflict you are feeling. We can only admire the strength it took to consider letting a love go because you knew it was the best option.

If chosen, we can say that your baby will be loved, cherished, and cared for as if they were being raised by you. A baby is a gift that only you can give. The choice to let someone else raise and love your baby shows unconditional devotion to your baby’s well-being. We are grateful and applaud the mental power it took to make this altruistic choice. Thank you.