Dear Birthmother,

Even without having met you, we know you are courageous, selfless, and undeniably strong. One of our aunts faced the same difficult decision you are facing. She was a tough, sweet, intelligent person and a creative force in our family. She designed all of the flowers for our wedding by hand, piecing together bouquets, boutonnieres, and centerpieces with love. We feel as though she is with us now, watching over us and over you, making sure you never feel alone and you are always treated with kindness and care.

We fell in love because we noticed we both went out of our way to treat everyone we met—no matter who they were—with respect and kindness. During our first five years as a couple, we didn’t have a lot of money, but we were always happy. This taught us what really matters: our love for each other and our family. We would raise your child to see the value in every person they meet. We would teach them to appreciate the simple things in life. We would give them time to play, explore, and enjoy life. We would laugh together—a lot! We would spend as much time as possible at family dinners, birthday celebrations, pancake breakfasts, and backyard gatherings with nearby cousins, aunts and uncles, grandparents, and pets so they are always surrounded by layers of love.

As their parents, the center of that fold, we would love them unconditionally and always.